I was given the sugar doll award by No Signposts in the Sea – thanks! I think I was also given one ages ago by Intrinsically Florrie, but can find no evidence of it now. Maybe I made it up! Anyway, the award comes with a ‘tell us ten things about yourself’ meme, and what I’ve decided to us it to bombard you with my half-formed thoughts about the wedding. I promise I won’t bore you with this kind of thing too much, but I reckon since I’m newly engaged I’m allowed.
1. We have a ring! Well, we don’t have it yet, because we are having it made and it’ll not be there for three to four weeks. It’s a slightly narrower version on an existing ring, so that we could stay within budget, and it’s lovely! A square diamond, thick band, classic AND contemporary. I don’t have any pictures even of the original one, but it’s from Annie Smith, a small independent jewellers.
2. We are going to actually get married on a Friday, with just close family. I don’t really want lots of people watching me say my vows, and I don’t want lots of poems read and stuff. Ten minutes at the registry office is fine with me!
3. Then we can just have our reception on the Saturday, and I can have a nice lie in and still have time to prepare. I always think these full days with the ceremony in the morning must be so stressful for the wedding couple. I’m not sure I can focus for 12 hours straight! I’m still alternately excited and scared of the process of organising such a big party, so it’s probably as much as I can handle.
4. We are not at all clear how we want the reception to be. Either a vintage 1950s theme or something really colourful with children’s birthday party decorations and lovehearts or smarties as favours. It will sort of depend on what venue we find.
5. What we do know though is that it will be buffet food and people can sit where they want. Life’s too short for seating plans!
6. Dave will be wearing his kilt, so I need a fairly formal dress for the party. I’m going to be looking for something vintage 1950s like the ones in this etsy shop, and my fallback option is this Vivien of Holloway dress. I’m open to either colour or white. Either way, I don’t want a proper wedding dress, I want something I can wear again and I don’t want to spend more than £200.
7. I’m sort of toying with the idea of a second dress for the actual ceremony – I’m thinking something like the vintage suit Carrie has in the Sex and the City film. Though again not necessarily white.
8. The obvious choice of music is to have a ceilidh band. I love ceilidhs but unfortunately Dave doesn’t and is vetoing that idea, and it’s probably not a great idea anyway because my German family will never have seen anything like it. And while the steps are easy enough to pick up, for ceilidhs to work properly you need at least 50% of people to know what they are doing. And we wouldn’t have that.
9. I have made some tentative forays into the world of wedding inspiration, but I am slightly freaked out by what is happening on all these message boards. Do people really dedicate an entire year of their lives to micromanaging every last detail of a single day? Maybe I’ll end up like that too (I do tend to get quite obsessive about organising events), but I’m hoping for everybody’s sake that I won’t! Also, all the websites are called something with the word bride in it, like the grooms get no say in the planning at all!
10. We have always said we’d go to Sri Lanka for our honeymoon, but I’m not sure whether the political situation will allow that – the Foreign Office is currently still advising against travel there. We’ll probably end up just going to the South of France or somewhere, and save the big trip til later.
I’m gonna be lazy and not nominate anyone for the award, but please help yourself if you fancy the meme.