Hello Franca Fans! I’m Jill from Spoils of Wear. This is so fun – participating in this series of guest posts while Franca is off enjoying her new married life – I’m thrilled to be here!
I got married on a shoestring budget with just 3 months to plan. It’s totally doable! All it takes is a positive attitude and a little imagination. Join me as I analyze a few traditional wedding details and give some un-professional advice fit for the current millennia.
It’s a big deal, I know. Can I just be completely honest here? I think wedding gowns are positively hideous on the hanger (I felt that virtual face slap. I forgive you.) But seriously, it’s not until the glowing bride-to-be is in the dress that it becomes a thing of real beauty. Be it black, white, or hot pink. Short or long, dressy or casual, $10 or $10,000. If it fits style and budget, who is to say it’s wrong? I have no regrets about the dress I chose, but at the time, I didn’t realize that my options spanned beyond the bridal shop. Had I known, I might have spent less time and money on something equally (or more) ‘me’.
Pssst. Let me tell ya a little secret. Just because a couple doesn’t say ‘I do’ in a church, doesn’t mean their marriage is doomed. Don’t get me wrong, I love church and have enjoyed many church weddings. They are lovely, convenient, and often inexpensive. But many popular/historical/iconic churches have long waiting lists, and unless Wednesday at 11am works for you, it may not be available for quite some time. Unique wedding sites are fun – think boat, barn, park, backyard, garden, bridge, abandoned building, historical landmark, beach, gazebo, ice-cream parlor, library, skating rink, amusement park…the creative options are endless. It’s far more likely that one of these places will be willing and available to meet wedding day requirements than a venue overbooked with events.
Don’t even try to accommodate the dietary needs and preferences of every single guest (it’s impossible). Perhaps the happy couple shares a favorite food. Love breakfast? Serve brinner – breakfast for dinner! Hate cake but love tootsie rolls? Bring on the candy buffet! It’s a party and you control the menu – have fun with it!
What if the bride’s best friend is a dude and the groom’s sister is his #1 fan? Should they be forced to swap sides due to gender? I think not. Mash it up, baby!
The bridesmaids will have entirely different styles, body types, modesty preferences, and budgets. Do they have to wear the same exact dress? Not unless the bride wants them to. Pick a color (or several colors) and give the girls (supervised) sartorial reign.
So the groom hates ties and formal footwear? So let him show a little chest hair (if you dare) and give the boy a new pair of Nikes to wear… it’s his party too, after all.
Take it all with a grain of salt (including mine), but don’t burn bridges. There is no way Steve and I could have pulled off a 3 month engagement without the help of our friends and family, and some compromise here and there. Just as no couple is perfect, no wedding is going to be perfect. Make allowances for imperfections and shrug off the unnecessary details. The only thing that matters at the end of this crazy day is two lives becoming one. Right? Exactly.
Are you a bride/bride-to-be/bride wannabe? Feel free to share your unique story or wedding idea with us! The crazier the better!