I wore this outfit to work on a Friday. I haven’t shown this £1 blazer on the blog yet, so I wore the same thing again on the Saturday (with a different long sleeve tee underneath). I also thought it would be good to show a more ‘ordinary’ outfit, lest anyone thinks I spend every day flouncing about in vintage dresses. Not that I think anyone thinks that (?).
I was reminded of an excellent post over on decoding dress, where Dee talks about how she feels “fashion/outfit blogging is growing increasingly detached from reality. The carefully curated wardrobes, the corporate sponsorships, the Instagrams from behind the scenes at the [insert brand name here] event — none of that connects with my life, my closet or what’s in either one of them.” This is in contrast with her own disatisfaction with her outfits over winter and the fact she’s put on a bit of weight (She looks fab of course).
I completely sympathise with the frustration of seeing all these model-pretty 22 year old girls who can make a living out of blogging or are in some other life arrangement that allows them to spend hours and hours every day blogging interacting and doing fun things to blog about, when I am struggling to just about keep my life on track. But I’m not sure that’s a question of reality vs. artifice.
The thing is, my blog isn’t exactly ‘real’ if by real we mean daily ordinary life and problems. My life *obviously* isn’t all creative outfits, deep thoughts and pretty pictures. I have the same regular freak outs about my appearance, work and relationships as everyone else, but I rarely talk about them here. Partly this is to protect the privacy of other people involved, and partly because I think all this stuff will sound silly six months down the line, no matter how dramatic or upsetting it is at the time (there’s some diary-style writing from the 16 year old me online, and man am I glad that blogs weren’t about then or there would be so much more!).
The outfits also aren’t ordinary day to day ones. I only do one outfit post a week now while it still gets dark before I get home from work, and I do try to make sure it’s an interesting one. Hence the vintage dresses and copious brooches and nice backgrounds. And when the outfit is not that exciting, such as today, I do something else to make the pictures interesting, such as the twin and triplet stuff here (for which thank you Stef for the inspiration). I’m into the photos as photos, not just as documentation of the outfits.
Dee suggests that people read and write fashion blogs to escape from their lives. I’d word it slightly less strongly than that. For me, it’s about recognising and celebrating the beauty and creativity in my life. It’s edited life, of course, but it’s still life. Because I do wear these outfits to do normal stuff in the ‘real’ world, it’s not as if I just out stuff on for the photo. I suppose a few of the mega successful bloggers do do that, get dressed up just for a photoshoot, but many do wear their stuff properly. It’s just that their lifestyle is so different from most people’s, they have the luxury of being able to focus on dressing to look fashionable and don’t need to worry about also looking professional and getting ready in ten minutes.
So I suppose that’s what it is: different lifestyles and different approaches to blogging. Personally, I’m aiming for something in between daily documentation and aspirational fantasy. I’d say most of the blogs I read fall into this middle ground as well. When I feel like I know enough about the person to get a sense of what they’re like a little, but it’s not as if I know everything about them. But that’s just a personal choice and then I do read some really personal and some completely impersonal editorial ones too.
I seem to have gone off on a bit of a tangent here, but what do you think (about any of this?)
Update: I just remembered that I wrote something slightly more coherent about authenticity a year go which might be of interest.
* dress – h&m * jeans – charity shop * jacket – charity shop * trainers – converse, bought in Hamburg * coat h&m * gorgeous wool scarf – gift * necklace – swap * satchel – cambridge satchel company *